
Nervous system regulation menu: RESET model
for the moments when you feel out of control + not yourself + flooded + dysregulated…. find the action that brings you back to yourself.
*RESET = Root + Energize + Soothe + Engage + Transform
R - Root
Anchor into the present moment. Feel your body and surroundings.
Try:
5-4-3-2-1 senses check
(5 things you can see + 4 things you can feel + 3 things you can hear + 2 things you can smell + 1 thing you can taste)
Press feet into the ground
Hold something cool or textured
Describe your environment out loud
Use deep pressure or a weighted object
E- Energize
Move the energy out and through.
Shake out your arms and legs
Walk, march, or pace mindfully
Dance to a song that matches your energy
Do wall push-offs, extra big stretches, or jumping jacks
Swing your arms like a ragdoll
S- Soothe
Calm your nervous system through rhythm and breath.
Try:
4-7-8 breathing *inhale 4 + hold for 7 + exhale for 8
Hum or sing softly to yourself
Long audible sighs
Place a hand on your chest and belly or try a self hug
Follow a breath pacer for 2–5 minutes
E - Engage
Feel connection—internally or with someone safe.
Try:
Text or voice note a supportive person
Look at a comforting photo
Make eye contact with someone safe
Ask for a hug, hand-hold, or shoulder squeeze
Say a kind phrase to yourself aloud
T - Transform
Release emotion or tension through creative or sensory expression.
Try:
Doodle freely or scribble
Tap a steady rhythm on your body or table
Use scent (lavender, citrus, grounding oils)
Crumple paper, squeeze putty, or rip something
Give your emotion a color, shape, or sound