Nervous system regulation menu: RESET model


for the moments when you feel out of control + not yourself + flooded + dysregulated…. find the action that brings you back to yourself.

*RESET = Root + Energize + Soothe + Engage + Transform

 

R - Root

Anchor into the present moment. Feel your body and surroundings.

Try:

  • 5-4-3-2-1 senses check

    (5 things you can see + 4 things you can feel + 3 things you can hear + 2 things you can smell + 1 thing you can taste)

  • Press feet into the ground

  • Hold something cool or textured

  • Describe your environment out loud

  • Use deep pressure or a weighted object

E- Energize

Move the energy out and through.

  • Shake out your arms and legs

  • Walk, march, or pace mindfully

  • Dance to a song that matches your energy

  • Do wall push-offs, extra big stretches, or jumping jacks

  • Swing your arms like a ragdoll

S- Soothe

Calm your nervous system through rhythm and breath.

Try:

  • 4-7-8 breathing *inhale 4 + hold for 7 + exhale for 8

  • Hum or sing softly to yourself

  • Long audible sighs

  • Place a hand on your chest and belly or try a self hug

  • Follow a breath pacer for 2–5 minutes

E - Engage

Feel connection—internally or with someone safe.

Try:

  • Text or voice note a supportive person

  • Look at a comforting photo

  • Make eye contact with someone safe

  • Ask for a hug, hand-hold, or shoulder squeeze

  • Say a kind phrase to yourself aloud

T - Transform

Release emotion or tension through creative or sensory expression.

Try:

  • Doodle freely or scribble

  • Tap a steady rhythm on your body or table

  • Use scent (lavender, citrus, grounding oils)

  • Crumple paper, squeeze putty, or rip something

  • Give your emotion a color, shape, or sound